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Belief, Powerful and dangerous

Posted by Mohammed Nazari on Tuesday, January 27, 2015 Under: Logic First - Emotion Third

Belief, Powerful and dangerous

Author: Mohammed Nazari


I knew this family doctor who had some different ideas. As long as I knew him he had issues with the college of physicians. Issues from  billing, falsifying medical records, prescribing drugs that he shouldn't have and some sexual charges. However all time he stood strong and was not budging.

He thought of himself as being right and that everyone else was wrong. He never questioned himself, never admitted to any wrong doings and consequently never made an attempt to fix his behaviour. As problems deepened he became more religious with stronger beliefs. I think this was how he gained the strength he needed to uphold the pressure of the real world.

Finally, he lost his license as a family physician.

Beliefs are valid to the extent that they are supported by science and/or statistics. In other words there aren't too many solid and unshaken beliefs.


When having a belief, you don't have to question or doubt yourself anymore and the only thing you focus on is "taking action". Definitely things will go faster and stronger since you don't have to spend the time reviewing and auditing your actions or measure the outcome. The problem is that if you are on a wrong track, which will be more frequent than being on a right track, you will keep going on, making more mistakes and never realizing why things fail. Like this doctor who kept going on until he lost his license.

The amazing thing is that often individuals with strong unproven beliefs don't even realize their failure and consider it as a blessing in disguise (mythical and imaginary success)

Belief is powerful, regardless of believing in reality or myths and imagination. The problem is believing in myths and imagination, only results in mythical and imaginary success.

In : Logic First - Emotion Third 



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A Personal Journey (Speech)

Author: Mohammed Nazari

Please find the link to the YouTube videos below

Part 1: https://youtu.be/A4BzmJ7jwOg

                               Part 2: https://youtu.be/JufeK2G-U8E

  •  It is amazing, when you have a big "goal" in mind, most other big "problems" look like small "challenges"       
  • Education in Canada is more practical than in the east which is more theoretical. After all you can find the theory in books or online, without needing to go to school.

Reasons for my failure as an employee:

1. Higher Canadian standards and sensitivity level  

2. My defensive behavior    

  •  Blaming  your behavior or action does not mean blaming you as a person
  • One for all, All for one

3. Inability to be honest with my own feelings  

  • Pride that has no basis, doesn't allow you to be honest.

4.  Canadian are too polite to be honest   

  •  If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything
  • Read between the lines

 Resolution:

  •  Knowledge of higher/different Canadian standards and simply following versus questioning them
  •  Longer orientation
  •  Welcoming comments and asking for further explanation versus defending our self
  • Being honest with our feelings and abilities:

o   Acknowledging your weakness is a sign of honesty and makes you stronger.

  • Asking versus commenting:

o   Don't assume, ask question

o   Don't comment, ask question

o   Don't judge, ask question

o   When in doubt, ask question

o   When you think you know, ask questions to clarify

o Comments are not welcome, questions are

ยท         What kind of question?

1. Open ended and unbiased questions

2. Yes-No questions to clarify

When you have a car problem whom you ask for help? your Doctor, mother or mechanic.

Although this question seems silly, we make this mistake all the time, asking a professional question from people outside of that profession and building opinions.

  • Ask questions from the right person(s). The ones with proven success.

 

You will learn more from the successful people who can show you how to succeed.

Unsuccessful people can show you how not to fail the way they did.

 While the pathways to success are few, there are multiple pathways to fail.

Which one is easier and more effective to learn?

 Uncle Google and my cousin YouTube can help you with any questions.

Starting my own business

  •  In order to have a good society/business, good structure is more important than good people.
  •  The main sources of work/interpersonal problems are: communication and expectations.
  •  Interpersonal skills are not just talking nicely but much more importantly is to follow a structure and    framework, even if it is not the best structure.
  • Having a poor structure is better than having no structure

I would I would recommend that you ask my uncle and cousin, Google and YouTube, about the following:

follow

  • Active listening
  •  Critical thinking
  • Yes-No question
  • Open ended question
  • how to be honest with oneself

 

After all My success and happiness depends on your success and happiness.

Let us make life better for all of us.